Pakistani carpenter approached her and said, “Your Majesty, Your Majesty, please come with me. I want you to meet someone.” He took her over to his brother for an introduction. As she was chatting with someone else, the carpenter returned and again said, “Your Majesty, please come with me.” He then introduced her to a second brother who had helped carve the castle’s woodwork. Rather than being offended, she was amused by his enthusiastic audacity. Recounting the story to a senior Indian diplomat several years later in a flawless South Asian accent, she laughed and said, “I began to worry that he might have 12 brothers!”
The wedding anniversary commemoration reflected a reverence for tradition as well as a new openness adopted by the royal family after Diana’s death. On Wednesday, November 19, Philip paid tribute to his wife and family in a speech at a luncheon for the couple hosted by the Lord Mayor of London at the Guildhall. With the Queen seated next to him, Philip observed that “tolerance is the one essential ingredient of any happy marriage.… It is absolutely vital when the going gets difficult.” His wife, he said, “has the quality of tolerance in abundance.” Mindful of the family’s recent “tribulations,” he also singled out his children for praise, saying they “have all done rather well under very difficult and demanding circumstances.”
On the 20th, Elizabeth II and Philip attended a service of thanksgiving at Westminster Abbey, where they had walked down the aisle fifty years earlier. In addition to their four children and six grandchildren, the royal couple was honored by seven kings, ten queens, a grand duke, twenty-six princes, and twenty-seven princesses, as well as fifty other couples, all ordinary citizens, who were also married in 1947. With memories still fresh from Diana’s funeral eleven weeks earlier, there was an added undercurrent of solemnity, especially when William and Harry arrived with their father. In a “throat-catching moment,” George Carey blessed the Queen and Philip as they knelt before him. “I found myself wondering if our nation was actually worthy of their devotion and unflagging sense of duty,” the archbishop recalled.
The nod to modernity came afterward at a “people’s banquet,” a luncheon orchestrated in New Labour style and hosted by Tony Blair. Rather than having the royal couple at a head table on a dais surrounded by luminaries, the prime minister invited 350 guests from all walks of life and placed them at round tables without regard for rank or privilege. Dining with the Queen were an autoworker, a policeman, a jockey, and a maintenance worker, and she was seated next to a twenty-four-year-old leader of the Girl Guides.
In a speech at the luncheon, Blair thanked Elizabeth II anew for her conduct during “the terrible test” of Diana’s death when “hurtful things” were said. He understood “how moved you were by the outpouring of grief.… You sought, at all times … to help and do the best by the boys, and that is the way it should have been and was.” He affirmed his support for “a strong and flourishing monarchy” led by a Queen representing “those values of duty and service that are timeless.” It was on this occasion that Blair memorably hailed Elizabeth II as “a symbol of unity in a world of insecurity where nothing stays the same. You are our Queen. We respect and cherish you. You are, simply, the Best of British.”
In her speech, the Queen not only praised her husband but expanded on the notion of “lessons to be drawn” that she had first broached in her remarks about Diana. Surveying her five decades of married life, she remarked on such innovations as television, mobile telephones, and the Internet, which “to be honest” meant in her case that she had “listened to other people talking about surfing the Net.”
She reflected on the “huge constitutional difference between a hereditary monarchy and an elected government,” both of which depend on the consent of the people. “That consent, or lack of it,” she said, “is expressed for you, Prime Minister, through the ballot box. It is a tough, even brutal, system but at least the message is a clear one for all to read.”
For the royal family, “the message is often harder to read, obscured as it can be by deference, rhetoric or the conflicting currents of public opinion. But read it we must.” She said she had done her best “with Prince Philip’s constant love and help to interpret it correctly” and assured her audience that they would “try together to do so in the future.” She expressed gratitude for the support she received after Diana’s death. “It is you, if I may now speak to all of you directly, who have seen us through,” she said, “and helped us to make our duty fun.”
She closed with a frank but tender homage to Philip, who “all too often, I fear … has had to listen to me speaking.” She acknowledged his help in crafting her speeches—expressing his views “in a forthright manner.” Admitting his unwillingness to “take easily to compliments,” she said he had, “quite simply, been my strength and stay all these years, and I, and his whole family, and this and many other countries, owe him a debt greater than he would ever claim, or we shall ever know.”
The Queen’s marital milestone inevitably prompted speculation in the press about how much her celebrated tolerance had been tested. For years there had been rumors that Philip had a roving eye, and in 1996 author Sarah Bradford had stated flatly in her biography of the Queen that “Philip’s obvious flirtations and his affairs” had made “no difference to a marriage as firm and indeed fond as theirs.”
Philip had been linked to women in high aristocratic circles—usually close friends of the couple such as Jane, the Countess of Westmorland, who had been a great beauty; Penny Romsey, who often rode with the duke in carriage driving competitions; his (and the Queen’s) cousin Princess Alexandra; and Sacha Abercorn, wife of the 5th Duke of Abercorn, a contemporary of the Prince of Wales. In none of those cases was there any evidence of an affair.
Martin Charteris sought to put the gossip to rest shortly before the golden wedding anniversary in an interview with the
Patricia Brabourne, the royal couple’s Mountbatten cousin, subsequently explained Philip’s relationship with her daughter-in-law, Penny Romsey, by saying that she is “Philip’s great friend. The friendship there is largely based on their carriage driving. She goes and is visible.” Brabourne was also “absolutely certain” that he had been faithful to the Queen. “He would never behave badly,” she said. “He has always loved the Queen.… He wouldn’t want to do anything to hurt her.”
Sacha Abercorn spoke out as well, with the same objective of shooting down the rumors. She told author Gyles Brandreth that she and Philip had become friendly in the 1970s through their mutual interest in the writings of Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, about whom they had “riveting conversations.” When Brandreth asked why she was seen holding hands with the duke on the island of Eleuthera, she explained, “It was a passionate friendship, but the passion was in the ideas.… I did not go to bed with him. It probably looked like that to the world … but it didn’t happen.… He isn’t like that.… He needs a playmate and someone to share his intellectual pursuits.”
The Queen, according to her cousin Pamela Hicks, “doesn’t mind when he flirts. He flirts with everyone, and she knows it means absolutely nothing.” She recalled the time Philip “bitterly said to my sister that he has never had an affair since he has been married.” He vehemently added, “The way the press related it, I had affairs with all these women. I might as well have and bloody enjoyed it.” Even biographer Sarah Bradford eventually backed off, telling
THE ROYAL COUPLE said goodbye to one of the most visible emblems of their partnership when
The quayside service, conducted by naval chaplains and attended by 2,200 former
