Similarly, we often speak as though ‘hurt feelings’ resemble physical pains, no matter that they originate from such different situation-types. This could be because, although they begin in different ways, both may end up by seizing control of the same higher-level machinery. Thus, disrespect on the part of a friend can disrupt your brain in much the same way as a deep, aching pain. And sometimes, what starts with physical pain can get amplified ‘psychologically’:
In any case, most kinds of feelings are hard to describe because we know so little about how their machinery works. However, it can be easy to
§3-3. Feeling, Hurting, and Suffering
“As he thought of it, a sharp pang of pain struck through him like a knife and made each delicate fiber of his nature quiver. His eyes deepened into amethyst, and across them came a mist of tears. He felt as if a hand of ice had been laid upon his heart.”
We have many words for types of pain—like stinging, throbbing, piercing, shooting, gnawing, burning, aching, and so on. But words never capture quite enough of what any particular feeling
What makes hurting so hard to describe? Is this because feelings are so simple and basic that there’s nothing more to be said about them? No, it’s precisely the opposite; chapter §9 will argue that feelings are intricate processes—but because we have so little sense of how these work, we can only describe their effects in terms of analogies with familiar things.
For example I’ve heard suffering likened to a balloon that keeps dilating inside your mind until there’s no more room for your usual thoughts. Then you might feel you’ve lost your ‘freedom of choice’ and that your mental condition has become like that of a prisoner.
In any case, this raises the question of what distinctions we’re trying to make with like
Our theory suggests that one cannot separate those things because when we speak about ‘feeling uncomfortable’ we
Terms like ‘basic’ or ‘experience’ only hide our lack of insight about the processes they purport to describe. For example, when you ‘see’ your own hand, you seem to know that it is
It must be the same for feelings, too; when they seem basic or direct, this merely reflects our ignorance of how we recognize types of
What do we mean when we talk about feelings? What do we mean by
For, when you ask yourself,
This suggests that what we call ‘feelings’ are attempts (by various parts of our minds) to describe large- scale aspects of mental conditions. However, those conditions are usually so complex that the best we can do is to recognize them, and then try to say which other feelings they’re ‘like’. This is what make feelings hard to explain: it is