'Uh-huh,' I say. Jess does look great in just about every photo I've ever seen of her. I think it's because her face is so symmetrical, which I once read is the very thing that makes someone beautiful. The article said that even babies are drawn to faces with symmetry.
'
She couldn't be any more desperate for me to ask about her assignment. So I fold and say, 'What assignment might that be, Mother?'
'I did tell you about my photography class, didn't I?'
I nod, thinking,
'Well. We're working on portraits now.'
'Sounds neat,' I say.
She misses my sarcasm and says, 'Yes. It is
'Right. I'm sure.'
'Which brings me back to you. I've chosen you as my subject.'
I can tell she expects me to be excited by being the chosen one, but I say, 'Why not photograph Maura's kids? Or Dwight?'
'Because,' she says hesitantly, as if about to unmask a dark truth.
Jess nods vigorously and makes another gesture, like,
'Our assignment is to photograph pain.' She frowns as she says it as if she, herself, is carrying quite the emotional load.
I can feel my eyes narrowing. 'And you think I can help you out with that?'
'Claudia, dear. Please don't get defensive.'
'I'm not,' I say, well aware of how very defensive I sound.
'I want to capture your pain.'
'I'm not in pain.'
'Yes you are, Claudia. You're hurting over Ben. I heard about Tucker,' she says.
'I'm fine,' I say.
'No, young lady, you are not fine. You are not fine at all.'
Jess makes a face as if she's bracing for a traffic accident and then exits, likely to call Trey.
'You are hurting right
'Mother. I
She purses her lips, stares at me and shakes her head. Then she loads a fresh roll of film, fiddles with her monstrous lens, and raises her camera to shoot me.
I put my hand in front of my face, palm out. 'Stop it, Mother.'
'Mother!' I say. Then I gather myself, recognizing that my mother probably loves having a pained
I feel a bit guilty for the suggestion, but then consider that it was likely Daphne who spilled the beans. Besides, Daphne has a much higher tolerance for my mother. They talk nearly every day.
'Because of her infertility, you mean?' my mother asks, as if it is only a minor travail rather than a heartbreaking ordeal.
'It's not the same. There is no grief like heartbreak.'
I want to refute what my mother has just said, but I can't, so I just say, 'I'm not heartbroken.'
'Yes. You are.'
'What about Maura? She and Scott are in a constant state of turmoil,' I say, figuring that I might as well throw my other sister under the bus, on the off chance that it was she who spilled the beans about Tucker.
'Maura's not in love with Scott,' my mother says. 'They never had what you and Ben had. You and Ben were so in love. And I suspect you still are,' she says, raising her camera again. She squints, zooms in with a flick of her wrist.
'Mother. Enough.'
'I mean it, Mother!' I shout, and as she stands to capture another angle of my angst-ridden profile, I feel incredible sadness commingling with my anger. I put my face in my hands, telling myself not to cry, telling myself not to prove my mother right. When I look up, I see Jess in the doorway with a questioning look:
I am back to being only enraged as I say, 'Don't you dare take my picture again. I'm your daughter. Not your project.'
My voice is eerily calm, but I also hear something in my voice that almost scares me. I wonder if my mother can hear it, if she's listening at all.
I suddenly know that if this woman, who happened to give birth to me almost thirty-five years ago, takes my picture in this moment and seeks to benefit from my grief, I will be done with her forever. I will not speak to her again. I will refuse to see her under any circumstance, deathbed scenarios included.
Of course I've had this thought many times before, but I have never followed through. I always cave-not for her sake, nor because I need or want a mother-but because I don't want my mother to define who I am, and
My mother is a nuisance and a trial, but she is not important enough to write off in any bold terms. Still, despite my general feelings about avoiding total estrangement, I have the sense that I am at a crossroads. This time I mean business. If I can get a divorce from a man I love, I can cut off this woman.
I watch my mother furrow her brow and give me her standard look of sympathy. Her best funeral expression.
My rage gives way, in small part, to curiosity. How bad is my mother? Will she take my picture again, even after I've come to the brink of tears? Even after I warned her in no uncertain terms? I almost want her to take one final photo. I almost want this to be our defining mother-daughter moment. I watch her as she freezes, then lowers her camera to her lap. Nobody ever stops my mother from doing what she wants, and I can't help feeling triumphant. And very surprised.
She presses her lips together and says, 'I'm sorry.'
I am both relieved and disappointed by her apology. I can't think of a single time she's ever apologized to me for anything, despite scores of occasions she owed me one. At least she's never apologized without blaming someone else or adding a
'But
I roll my eyes and say yes.
We are both silent as she awkwardly packs up her camera equipment. When it is all stowed at her feet, she looks at me and says another quiet but sincere, 'I'm sorry.'
I look away, but can still feel her eyes on me. I can feel how much she wants me to say something. Absolve her. Embrace her.
I do none of these things. I just sit there in silence.
A long while later, my mother says, 'I need to tell you something, Claudia.'
'What's that?' I ask her, expecting something frivolous.