Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim

dinner of hot dogs and potato chips, the rumpled Snoopy sheets. Answer no and you were blue-balled, the frustrated bachelor of the second grade. It was an idea of children as miniature adults, which was about as funny to me as a dog in sunglasses.

'Well, there must besomeone you have your eye on.'

The boy did not answer, but the man persisted in trying to draw him out. 'Is Mommy sleeping in this morning?'

Again, nothing.

The man gave up and turned to me. 'Your wife,' he said. 'I take it she's still in bed?'

He thought I was Michael's father, and I did not correct him. 'Yes,' I said. 'She's upstairs. . passed out.' I don't know why I said this, or then again, maybe I do. The man had constructed a little family portrait, and there was a pleasure in defacing it. Here was Michael, here was Michael's dad, and now, here was Mom, lying facedown on the bathroom floor.

The elevator stopped on three, and the man tipped his hat. 'All right, then,' he said. 'You two enjoy the rest of the morning.' Michael had pressed the button for the fifth floor no less than twenty times, and now he gave it an extra few jabs just for good measure. We were alone now, and something unpleasant entered my mind.

Sometimes when I'm in a tight situation, I'll feel a need to touch somebody's head. It happens a lot on airplanes. I'll look at the person seated in front of me, and within a moment the idea will have grown from a possibility to a compulsion. There is no option — I simply have to do it. The easiest method is to make like I'm getting up, to grab the forward seat for support and just sort of pat the person's hair with my fingers. 'Oh, I'm sorry,' I say.

'No problem.'

Most often I'll continue getting out of my seat, then walk to the back of the plane or go to the bathroom and stand there for a few minutes, trying to fight off what I know is inevitable: I need to touch the person's head again. Experience has taught me that you can do this three times before the head's owner either yells at you or rings for the flight attendant. 'Is something wrong?' she'll ask.

'I don't think so, no.'

'What do you mean 'no,' ' the passenger will say. 'This freak keeps touching my head.'

'Is that true, sir?'

It's not always a head. Sometimes I need to touch a particular purse or briefcase. When I was a child this sort of compulsive behavior was my life, but now I practice it only if I'm in a situation where I can't smoke: planes — as I mentioned — and elevators.

Just touch the boy'shead, I thought.The old man did it,so why can 't you?

To remind myself that this is inappropriate only makes the voice more insistent. The thing must be donebecause it is inappropriate. If it weren't, there'd be no point in bothering with it.

He won't even notice it. Touch him now,quick.

Were we traveling a long distance, I would have lost the battle, but fortunately we weren't going far. The elevator arrived on the fifth floor and I scrambled out the door, set the coffees on the carpet, and lit a cigarette. 'You're going to have to give me a minute here,' I said.

'But my room's just down the hall. And this is nonsmoking.'

'I know, I know.'

'It's not good for you,' he said.

'That's true for a lot of people,' I told him. 'But itreally is good for me. Take my word for it.'

He leaned against a door and removed the DO NOT DISTURB sign, studying it for a moment before sticking it in his back pocket.

I only needed to smoke for a minute, but realized when I was finished that there was no ashtray. Beside the elevator was a window, but of course it was sealed shut. Hotels. They do everything in their power to make you want to jump to your death, and then they make certain that you can't do it. 'Are you finished with your cocoa?' I asked.

'No.'

'Well, are you finished with the lid?'

'I guess so.'

He handed it to me and I spit into the center — no easy task, as my mouth was completely dry. Fifty percent of my body water was seeping out my ass, and the other half was in transit.

'That's gross,' he said.

'Yeah, well, you're just going to have to forgive me.' I stubbed the cigarette into the spit, set the lid on the carpet, and picked up the coffees. 'Okay. Where to?'

He pointed down a long corridor and I followed him, gnawing on a question that's been troubling me for years. What if you had a baby and you just. . you just needed to touch it where you knew you shouldn't. I don't mean that you'd want to. You wouldn't desire the baby any more than you desire a person whose head you've just touched. The act would be compulsive rather than sexual, and while to you there'd be a big difference, you couldn't expect a prosecutor, much less an infant, to recognize it. You'd be a bad parent, and once the child could talk and you told it not to tell anyone, you would become a manipulator — a monster, basically — and the reason behind your actions would no longer matter.

The closer we got to the end of the hall, the more anxious I became. I had not laid a finger on the boy's head. I have never poked or prodded either a baby or a child, so why did I feel so dirty? Part of it was just my makeup, the deep-seated belief that I deserve a basement room, but a larger, uglier part had to do with the voices I hear on talk radio, and my tendency, in spite of myself, to pay them heed. The man in the elevator had not thought twice about asking Michael personal questions or about laying a hand on the back of his head. Because he was neither a priest nor a homosexual, he hadn't felt the need to watch himself, worrying that every word or gesture might be misinterpreted. He could unthinkingly wander the halls with a strange boy, while for me it amounted to a political act — an insistence that I was as good as the next guy. Yes, I am a homosexual; yes, I am soaking wet; yes, I sometimes feel an urge to touch people's heads, but still I can safely see a ten-year-old back to his room. It bothered me that I needed to prove something this elementary. And prove it to people whom I could never hope to convince.

'This is it,' Michael said. From the other side of the door I heard the sound of a television. It was one of those Sunday-morning magazine programs, a weekly hour where all news is good news. Blind Jimmy Henderson coaches a volleyball team. An ailing groundhog is fitted for a back brace. That type of thing. The boy inserted his card key into the slot, and the door opened onto a bright, well-furnished room. It was twice the size of mine, with higher ceilings and a sitting area. One window framed a view of the lake, and the other a stand of scarlet maples.

'Oh, you're back,' a woman said. She was clearly the boy's mother, as their profiles were identical, the foreheads easing almost imperceptively into blunt freckled noses. Both too had spiky blond hair, though for her I imagined the style was accidental, the result of the pillows piled behind her head. She was lying beneath the covers of a canopy bed, examining one of the many brochures scattered across the comforter. A man slept beside her, and when she spoke, he shifted slightly and covered his face with the crook of his arm. 'What took you so long?' She looked toward the open door, and her eyes widened as they met mine. 'What the. .'

There was a yellow robe at the foot of the bed, and the woman turned her back to me as she got up and stepped into it. Her son reached for the coffees, and I tightened my grip, unwilling to surrender what I'd come to think of as my props. They turned me from a stranger to a kindly stranger, and I'd seen myself holding them as his parents rounded on me, demanding to know what was going on.

'Give them to me,' he said, and rather than making a scene, I relaxed my grip. The coffees were taken, and I felt my resolve starting to crumble. Empty-handed, I was just a creep, the spooky wet guy who'd crawled up from the basement. The woman crossed to the dresser, and as the door started to close she called out to me. 'Hey,' she said. 'Wait a minute.' I turned, ready to begin the fight of my life, and she stepped forward and pressed a dollar into my hand. 'You people run a very nice hotel,' she told me. 'I just wish we could stay longer.'

The door closed and I stood alone in the empty corridor, examining my tip and thinking,Is that all?