Multiple orgasms can be a difficult topic to handle because so many women think that they’re incapable of having them.
The truth is that all women have the inherent biological capacity to achieve them. It’s just that not all of them have the experience or recognize the natural potential.
Once your partner has her first orgasm, that should make it easier (and more intimate) for her to maintain and escalate her arousal by transitioning into a cool-down bonding time of cuddling and kissing, before moving into g-spot stimulating intercourse or continued manual stimulation.
That said there are some pretty good selling points regarding multiple orgasms. First off, it’s actually easier for your lover to experience her second (or third or fourth) orgasm because her engines are already primed.
She’s relaxed, aroused, sexually sensitive and responsive.
As I’ve already mentioned, most women are naturally (and quite often obliviously) multiple orgasmic. If she can cum once, she can almost positively do it again (some women can have as many as 50 consecutive orgasms!)
Right after the orgasm, her clitoris will be very sensitive, so you want to allot a few moments of a “break” before stimulating her again. Additionally, keeping things slow can help you cool off a bit and help you to last longer and regain some of your strength and stamina.
At this point, move into cuddling and kissing, where the both of you can take a break from the action…but… keep the palm of your hands covering her entire genital area. As you’re kissing, you can start to rub her vulva slowly with the palm of your hands.
If she pushes you away, then, it’s too soon to move back in.
However, is she moans, presses her genitals against your palms, or any other sign that what you’re doing is making her feel good, then you know you can move back to stimulating her again.
Female Ejaculation
Sometimes when a woman has an orgasm, she may actually ejaculate. This is especially true for orgasms as a result of G-spot stimulation.
This happens because of the Para-Urethral Glands, which is a female version of a man’s prostrate gland. The fluid the para-urethral glands produce is similar to that produced by the male prostate and, as in the male, passes into the urethra — and in some cases may pass into the vagina. The glands fill with fluid during sexual arousal and may be felt through the vaginal wall.
Many people who experience a squirting orgasm think that this liquid is pee, or even vaginal lubrication, but studies of the fluid ejaculated through the urethra have shown a different chemical composition than urine…it’s clear, and if you actually smell it, you’ll find that it doesn’t smell like urine at all! (Doesn’t smell like anything at all really).
To minimize the amount of urine that could possibly come it, have her urinate before you start your sexual activity.
Also, have some towels laying on the bed to soak up any fluids that come out.
Women sometimes will get the feeling that they need to urinate when their G-spot is stimulated. This is perfectly normal, however, the problem comes in when she becomes concerned and self conscious about wetting the bed.
This can drive her in a state of arousal and relaxation, to the point of stress and anxiety. If this happens, she may not be able to have an orgasm at all at this point. If she’s trying hard to hold it in, she’s not focusing on the sexual pleasure you’re giving her.
I can’t stress enough that in order for these tips to work, your lover needs to be relaxed and completely comfortable with you. This means that you’ll need a strong enough emotional bond for her to feel safe “letting go.” If she feels inhibited, she probably won’t be able to ejaculate Along with the precaution of urinating before any sexual activity, another key factor in female ejaculation (and orgasms) is relaxation. This is why the steps of massaging and having a relaxing atmosphere are included in this system.
She needs to be completely relaxed, and be perfectly comfortable if she does happen to ejaculate. If she gets the feeling that she needs to pee, let her know that she can “let it all out”. She won’t be peeing the bed, but it will still be really wet once the ejaculate gushes out.
If she’s still concerned, you can try stimulating her in the bathtub so any fluids that do come out doesn’t soak up the bed.
A trick you can use to “train” your partner into become more comfortable with “letting go” is to go with her to the bathroom whenever she’s urinating.
If she hasn’t urinated with you in the same room, she might feel anxious, and have a hard time urinating. Let her get comfortable with you to the point where she can easily pee while you’re there.
Once she releases her PC muscles and starts urinating, reassure her and comfort her by saying, “Good girl” (or whatever line you want to use). Associating the encouraging words along with your presence will allow her to feel comfortable enough to let go and urinate. Do this until she’s perfectly comfortable with you being there when she’s urinating.
Now, whenever you’re stimulating her G-spot, say “Good girl” (or whatever line you used in the bathroom). Because you’ve already trained her to the point where she feels relaxed urinating in your presence while you’re encouraging her, she won’t have the previously held inhibitions, and she’ll end up “letting go” and possibly ejaculating!
Lastly, another way to “train” a woman to ejaculate is by strengthening her PC muscles. Check out the Special Report “How to Guarantee Orgasms” where you’ll find a detailed guide.
CHAPTER 9
Phase IV: Reflection
Secrets to Getting Your Woman to Want to Have Sex with You All the Time
Physically, during this phase, her body is cooling down and returning to her normal, un-aroused state.
Her breast size, clitoris, inner and outer lips return to normal size, and the reddish “sex flush” is starting to go away… this is Resolution.
Psychologically she’s coming down to her normal mindset… but… it’s in her mind where you “seal the deal” and guarantee that she’ll be wanting more of you in the future.
Too many men get so caught up in the performance review of how many times (and how hard) she came that they lose sight of one of the most critical phase of a woman’s sexual response — Reflection.
And, for any of you that may believe otherwise — this isn’t an elective, its core curriculum. Women crave and require it. And men that understand this, and take advantage of it, have discovered a secret that we touched upon earlier in this book:
The pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience doesn’t just end after the point of orgasm. Smart lovers know that it can be continued on and lead to the seduction phase of your NEXT intimate encounter.
If, during the period after sex, the experience didn’t seem to offer her pleasure and satisfaction, she may not
