His heartfelt comment moved me in a profound way. I suddenly had an “aha moment” when I realized how much we women could learn from men regarding our feminine worth. It was at that moment that I had my second epiphany—why not write a book on femininity from the perspective of men?
So began what became an incredible ten-year journey—of discovering the nature of femininity from men’s point of view. This quest became a burning passion for me. Over the course of these past years, I’ve spent thousands of hours talking with men from a wide variety of backgrounds and ages, both in the U.S. and abroad, to learn what they considered feminine in women. Curious to hear what they had to say, I listened carefully to their responses. I found this process to be full of surprises, many pleasant and delightful, while others were heartbreaking.
I found pretty quickly that men are not used to women asking them for their honest opinions, especially in our hyper-politically-correct culture. In many cases, it took time to earn their trust so they felt safe to speak openly and honestly. Once they did open up, men shared information they wished women knew.
Despite differences in age and backgrounds, I found common threads in what men love in women. Across the board they expressed a deep appreciation and respect for femininity, while also revealing how much they miss it and long for its return.
This book is for women who have always felt at the core of their hearts a pull toward their femininity. It is for women who want to experience the thrill that comes from the attraction between opposite energies. After all, we feminine women do crave masculine men. We can’t help it because it’s in our nature to do so.
Feminine Women and Masculine Men
To make reading this book as streamlined as possible, unless I specify otherwise, when I say “men,” I refer to masculine men, and when I say “women,” I refer to feminine women. True—to varying degrees, each of us has a mixture of masculine and feminine energies, and this leads to a variety of gender types. My philosophy is that everyone should explore their own energies in a way that resonates with them, and that no group or individual (myself included!) should be bullied or judged for being true to their own inner calling. Note that although this book is intended for heterosexuals, the same principles of polarity are also applicable to same-sex couples. For those who resonate with other orientations, there are other authors who are more qualified to explore different gender perspectives.
Recognizing a Good Man
Like us, men aren’t perfect. Yet, most men do have good hearts and a masculine core. So, when I write about men here, I am referring to good men. These real men are protectors and providers, reliable, responsible, honorable, strong, trustworthy, benevolent, confident, competent, and secure in themselves. We intuitively want these masculine qualities in men. When we observe men with insecure tendencies—being “bad boys,” Peter Pans, passive-aggressive, manipulative, narcissistic, or having the need to put others down to feel important—we intuitively know they do not represent the best in masculine men. Refer to the appendix for a list of traits to choose in men, as well as traits to avoid.
What I’ve learned and want to share with you is that it’s our authentic femininity that brings out the finest in men. As we rediscover the true feminine in ourselves, we can look forward to attracting our counterparts in men—men who exhibit the true masculine qualities we know we want.
This Book Is for Women Who:
Feel out of sync with their natural feminine essence; overwhelmed and exhausted from operating in a “pseudo-masculine” role.
Have a subtle, yet deep calling to return to their femininity.
Desire to have a rest-of-life love relationship with a healthy masculine man.
Want to play the feminine role in their relationship.
Are open to making simple-yet-profound shifts to be a feminine woman who attracts a quality man (or to restore a relationship/marriage that has broken down).
Wish to break free of cultural conditioning that demonizes and discourages femininity.
In This Book, You Will Learn:
Why abandoning our femininity weakened us.
How masculinity complements our femininity.
How masculine-feminine polarity has eroded.
Why men need feminine women.
What feminine looks and attitudes men love.
Surprising insights about femininity from the perspective of men.
Results You Can Expect from Practicing These Principles:
Having a newfound appreciation for your femininity.
Accepting yourself as a feminine woman.
Feeling happier.
Trusting your intuition more readily.
Having a new appreciation of masculinity.
Opening up your heart to love.
Being more vulnerable and authentic with men.
Receiving more attention from masculine men.
Feeling more beautiful.
Having deeper inner peace.
These are only some of the benefits you’ll enjoy; however, don’t simply take my word for it. Read this book and discover the undeniable rewards for yourself. If you put these ideas into practice, they just might change your life. They did mine!
Suggestions for Enhancing What You Learn from This Book:
Tips for Reading and Reviewing This Book
Because each chapter builds on the preceding one, I suggest that you first read this book in order from beginning to end. Like learning any new language or skill, you’ll get better with repetition and practice. I recommend that you review this book more than once if you want to get the most from these concepts and ensure this information becomes a part of you. These concepts are so important to having loving relationships with men that you’ll find I’ve reverberated the most important ones several times across the chapters. I’ve also provided recaps at the end of each chapter for a quick reference of topics covered.
Journaling
Use a journal to write down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences as you navigate through these pages. Answer the exploration questions at the end of each chapter. Expressing your innermost thoughts and feelings on paper is an important way to reflect on the information and tools in this book. Journaling is wonderful for self-analysis.
