ZetaTalk: Being Human

located by the family or authorities in some sort of trouble away from home. In that the teen is

attempting to separate from his family, a normal emotional phase, this in fact should be the first

agenda considered by the authorities. Teens who fail to return home are most often making a

statement to their family. They have found life elsewhere better, less stringent, less demoralizing,

and thus are not considering returning home. Contrary to what the movies would portray, a teen

capable of running away from home is not often fallen into bad times, as they were resourceful and

aggressive enough to run away from home and thus are not passive.

Missing children are more in the news because of the media outreach available in human society today, as averse

yesteryear. Before radio and TV and the Interment and nationally distributed produce, there was the home town and an

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ZetaTalk: Missing Children

child taken or running out of the area. Thus, the frequency has not increased, only the publication of each agonizing situation, making these circumstances appear to be on the increase.

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ZetaTalk: Violent Games

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ZetaTalk: Violent Games

Note: written on Dec 15, 1996

Humans speak out both sides of their mouths regarding violence, as they both adore violence and promote it as a

solution to problems while at the same time asserting it is at the core of many problems their societies deals with.

Sports such as football and boxing involve the deliberate injury of opponents, movies present conflict resolution via

death by guns and knives and setting the opponent aflame, and yet when this same behavior is expressed by gangs of

boys in the ghettos it is taken to be a sign of a sick society. Institutional violence such as police brutality is condoned while white collar crime by members of the elite classes is forgiven, but both actions bring severe reprimands if done

by those not on top of the pile. The message is that violence is OK if you can get away with it. This can be seen most

clearly in a comparison of how the expression of sexual desires is treated versus how the expression of violent

tendencies is treated in toddlers.

Children in the playpen with each other can club each other over the head, throw objects at each other, or simulate

murderous instincts in graphic play with dolls with scarcely a reprimand from their parents. The child may be

temporarily separated from others it is hurting, and the victim comforted. That the behavior is unacceptable is hardly

communicated, but what is communicated is that the behavior has limits. Violence is OK, but making Mary scream

when mother is trying to chat on the phone is not OK - that’s the message. The child then begins to learn how to

express their violent tendencies where they won’t get caught. If mother is not around or is busy in the kitchen rather

than on the phone where she desires quiet, then pinching Mary or pummeling her over the head is OK.

Children in the playpen with each other, or even alone, cannot, however, get into sex play. Where the purported

dangers of sex play - venereal disease and pregnancy, cannot possibly be present in the playpen, nevertheless the child is instantly told by the tone of the mother’s voice and the intensity and quickness of her actions that such play is a

serious infraction. Adults are intensely uncomfortable when a child’s curious probing finger goes into the diaper. If

such curious play has come to the mother’s attention, the child is likely not to be left alone during play, and most

certainly won’t be left alone with other children if sex play has begun. The anxiety and resulting anger and fear that

the mother expresses speak mountains to the toddler, who often develops such a parallel anxiety about sex that they are

crippled for life in this arena.

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ZetaTalk: Fear

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ZetaTalk: Fear

Note: written on Mar 15, 1996

Fear is a protective emotion, without which the human animal would not have survived - early man would have

walked off cliffs, walked into the mouths of hungry predators, and followed their curiosity about poisonous snakes.

But in an intelligent, conscious species fear can get the upper hand so that one's life is dictated by fear, as the imagination places possibilities before one, and consequences that may never come about. You have a saying - burnt

once, twice shy - meaning that the fear can outweigh the original incident, growing in significance in memory beyond

what it was in fact. A common situation is a crippling fear based on a childhood incident, blown all out of proportion

due to the child's perspective. He was tiny, got yelled at by someone big who theoretically could kill him, crush him

like a bug. Now an adult, the grown child finds he cannot bear to step into a similar situation, as he feels an

overwhelming fear, a sense of impending doom, that he is about to be killed. Perhaps the original incident was over a

cookie, but the adult translates this into any object desired. Thus, the adult is crippled, unable to pursue a job

opportunity or ask for a date or purchase a new car - all because he got yelled at once when reaching for a