Why Men Love Bitches

   financial, 21, 174–85, 193

   maintaining your, 102–10

inner strength, 221–26

insecurity 152, 153

interests, maintaining own, 102–10, 196–99, 201

L

life, maintaining own, 102–10, 196–99, 201

longing, 22

love, ways to tell if he’s in, 169–70

lovers, lying about past, 72

M

male ego, 76–89

   making friends with, 80–82

   making him feel manly and, 77–78

   maneuvering around the, 83–87

   power and the, 86–89

   praise and, 79, 80–82

   public confrontations and, 86–87

Mama/Ho complex, 37–41

martyr, 146

men

   being taken for granted by, 128–30, 139–40, 201–5

   danger-seeking behavior of, 218–19

   desire for challenge by, 12

   desire for sex by, 59–61

   fear of losing freedom of, 42–47

   figuring out hidden agenda of, 97–98

   helping to form good habits in, 90–91

   nature of, 26–27

   pulling back behavior by, 10–11

   reasons for playing cool by, 156–60

   thrill of chase for, 26–37

mental challenge

   altering routine and, 199–209

   male desire for, xiv , 4–5, 6

   renewing, 196–212

   sense of humor and, 209–12

money issues

   appreciation for male spending, 185–87, 190–91

   financial independence, 174–85

   loans, 191–93

   paying on dates, 82–83, 185–88

   splitting costs, 187–90

mothering behavior, 37–41, 126–31

mystery retaining, 21, 95–96

N

nagging

   indifference instead if, 136–48

   as male reassurance, 132–33

   over chores, 141–44

   predictability of, 136

   styles of, 135

   uselessness of, 126–32, 134

   vs. maneuvering, 83–87

neediness

   financial, 183

   male aversion to, 18–20

   signs of, 78, 107, 152–56

needs, being direct about, 109–10

negative attention, 132

negotiation, clever, 89–95

nice girls

   accommodating behavior of, 30–32, 217–21

   described, 2–3

   neediness of, 18–20, 107

niceness quiz, 29–30

O

opinions, expressing, 47–51

orgasms, faking, 70–71

overcompensation, 3–4, 9, 15, 171

P

passion, keeping alive, 160–63

phone calls, 10–11, 93, 114, 115, 157, 206–7

pornography 69

power

   over self, 108–10

   position, 86–90

praise, 79, 80–82

R

relationships

   beginnings of, 9–10

   holding your own in, 3–5

   keeping passion alive in, 160–63

   power position in, 89–91

   setting pace of, 107–8

   setting tone of, 90–92

   talking about, 93–94

   talking about past, 95–96

   trying too hard in, 116–23

   turn offs in, 163–65

romance, keeping alive, 160–63

routine

   altering, 199–209

   maintaining your, 102–5, 108, 114

S

sappiness, avoiding, 111–15

self

   depletion of, 118–19, 122

   faith in, 226–27