Woman Hating: A Radical Look at Sexuality

pornographic definitions of women functioning in

reality, the real annihilation of real women —the crushing into nothingness o f their freedom, their will, their lives —how they were forced to live, and how they were

forced to die. We see the dimensions of the crime, the

dimensions of the oppression, the anguish and misery

that are a direct consequence of polar role definition,

of women defined as carnal, evil, and Other. We recognize that it is the structure of the culture which engineers the deaths, violations, violence, and we look for alternatives, ways of destroying culture as we know it,

rebuilding it as we can imagine it.

I write however with a broken tool, a language which

is sexist and discriminatory to its core. I try to make the

distinctions, not “history” as the whole human story, not

“man” as the generic term for the species, not “manhood” as the synonym for courage, dignity, and strength. But I have not been successful in reinventing

the language.

This work was not done in isolation. It owes much to

others. I thank my sisters who everywhere are standing

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up, for themselves, against oppression. I thank my sisters, the women who are searching into our common past, writing it so that we can know it and be proud. I

thank my sisters, these particular women whose work

has contributed so much to my own consciousness and

resolve — Kate Millett, Robin Morgan, Shulamith Firestone, Judith Malina, and Jill Johnston.

I also thank those others who have, through their

books and lives, taught me so much —in particular,

Allen Ginsberg, James Baldwin, Daniel Berrigan, Jean

Genet, Huey P. Newton, Julian Beck, and Tim othy

Leary.

I thank my friends in Amsterdam who were family

for the writing o f much o f this book and who helped

me in very hard times.

I thank Mel Clay who believed in this book from its

most obscure beginnings, the editors o f Suck and in

particular Susan Janssen, Deborah Rogers, Martin

Duberman, and Elaine Markson who has been wonderful to me. I thank Marian Skedgell for her help and kindness. I thank Brian Murphy who tried to tell me a

long time ago that O was an oppressed person. Chapter

3 is dedicated to Brian.

I thank Karen Malpede and Garland Harris for their

support and help. I thank Joan Schenkar for pushing

me a little further than I was willing, or able, to go.

I thank Grace Paley, Karl Bissinger, Kathleen

Norris, and Muriel Rukeyser. Without their love and

friendship this work would never have been done.

Without their examples o f strength and commitment,

I do not know who I would be, or how.

I thank my brother Mark and my sister-in-law Carol