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woman begin to feel comfortable with each other and the rumblings of love start to resonate through their bodies. As lovers are lulled by the good feelings, their eyes become more courageous. They slowly start to wander lovingly over each other's faces, ha ir, eyes. Then they become bolder and venture down to their partner's shoulders, neck, and torso. A dreaminess sets in.
To push your relationship with a new Quarry into this next step of intimacy, use the technique I call a visual voyage . As the conversation progresses, let your eyes slide slowly down from the nose to the lips.
Caress the lips with your eyes for a moment or two, then slowly venture south to the neck and, if all is going well, beyond.
TECHNIQUE #6:
A VISUAL VOYAGE
As you and your Quarry are chatting, let your eyes do some traveling—but only on safe territory at first.
Take a visual voyage all over his or her face, concentrating mostly on the eyes. If he or she seems to be enjoying your expedition, take small side trips to the neck, shoulders, and torso.
Women, you have a more liberal passport to travel in this territory. Men, be more wary. You're cruising into dangerous seas and can sink the ship if your eyes travel too far south and vacation there too long.
These four eye techniques—intense gaze, bedroom eyes, sticky eyes
When you start using them on your Quarry, you will feel the
effect. However, you don't need science to tell you that you cannot make someone fall in love with you unless the two of you are introduced to each other.
Unless, of course, you engineer an acquaintance without the benefit of introduction. In the vernacular, that's ''pick them up." Proponents of politi-Page 44
call correctness would recoil at the term. But I, for one, have nothing against the concept—if the
"pickup" is done in a manner, shall we say, befitting the situation and the individuals involved.
Let us now cover some basics. We'll explore how you can engineer the acquaintance of a Potential Love Partner without the benefit of third-party introduction.
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, and visual voyage —are
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The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only) Biologists, as they watch animals spotting each other, sniffing, growling, hissing, nuzzling, and finally copulating, observe the same courtship rituals over and over. The identical patterns of proceptivity and aggression repeat themselves time and time again. If the pattern is broken, often copulation does not take place.
It is no different with Homo sapiens (that's us), but we operate with a serious handicap. Unlike those of lower animals, our brains get in the way of our instincts. In other words, we think too much. We ask ourselves, and others around us, too many questio ns.
"Will he think I'm forward? Should I play hard to get? Do I look alright? Is my tie straight? Maybe I should go to the ladies' room and put on some more lipstick first." Shyness often takes over and paralyzes us, like a deer frozen in car headlights.
Rabbits have no such reflections. Nor shouldwe, when we spot our Quarry. We must merely follow what research tells us are the right moves when we spot him or her.
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Hunters, Make the First Move . . . Fast Gentlemen, what are the right moves when you spot a woman you think you'd like to make part of your future? No argument here. You must approach, and you must do it fast. The old chestnut "He who hesitates is lost" is a rock-hard nut in the singles'
jungle.
Once a male buddy (a PMF , or platonic male friend, as we called nonromantic male friends in high school) and I were dining at a restaurant. My , Phil, spotted a strikingly beautiful woman sitting PMF
alone at the bar behind him. He turned back to me and announced, "That's the woman I'm going to marry!"
"Congratulations. So how do you intend to go about meeting her?" I challenged.
"Let's see," he mused. "Perhaps I'll just go up to her and say hello. No," he decided. "That's too mundane for my future bride. Maybe I'll go offer to buy her a drink. No, that's too trite. Possibly,'
he joked, "I'll go tell her I'm passionately in love with her. No, that's too forward. Shall I tell her I want to make her the mother of my children? No, that's premature."
While Phil was bantering on about his approach, I watched over his shoulder as a good-looking man marched right up to Phil's intended and sat on the empty stool next to her. By the time my friend turned around, the newcomer and Phil's never-to-be bride were in deep conversation. "Love at first sight"
became Phil's "loss at first sight." As it usually does for a Hunter who hesitates.
When you spot an attractive lady, what's the best strategy? Let your body do the talking. First, use your eyes. Look at her and hold your eye contact for a few extra seconds. Be prepared for her to look away. A woman has been trained to lower her eyes when a man looks at her.This does not mean she is not interested . An analysis of flirtation patterns tells us if, after looking away, the woman looks up again within 45 seconds, she welcomes your attention.
Gentlemen, set your chronograph. As she coyly feigns interest in something else in the room, clock how long it takes for
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her to glance back at you. If it's within 45 seconds, proceed as follows.
Smile at her and give her a little nod. Think of it as making a reservation for a table at an exclusive restaurant. When you've signaled a woman's attention, you've made your reservation to talk with her.
Abolish all thoughts of "What will she think of me if I'm too forward or move too fast?" She won't think anything of you—good or bad—if you don't meet her.
If you don't move fast, every woman will be the one that got away.
TECHNIQUE #7 (FOR HUNTERS):
MOVE FAST
"Move fast" doesn't mean making a beeline for your Quarry and jumping her
