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LEIL LOWNDES, internationally recognized communications expert, has presented programs in practically every major U.S. city. She has coached Fortune 500 executives on interpersonal communications and has conducted communications seminars for the U.S. Peace Corps, foreign governments, and major corporations. She is the author of three books, including the topsellinHgow to Talk to Anybody About Anything .
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