"Woman Talk"? (Does It Exist?) 32 203 "How Do You Feel About That?"
33 207 "Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where . . ."
"Excuse Me, Could You Tell Me Where . . ."
34 209 "Please, Spare Me the Details"
35 213 "Tell Me (Don't Tell Me) About It"
36 217 "What's the Best Way to Get from Point A to Point B?"
"A Straight Line!" He Declares; "A Gentle Curve?"
She Asks 217 37 221
"Could You Give Me a Hand with This?"
38 225 Little Words to Win Your Quarry's Heart
39 227 Are There Dangerous Waters Ahead in the Gender Gap?
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Part Six: Rx For Sex How to Turn On the Sexual Electricity
40 231 Your Quarry's Hottest Erogenous Zone 41 233 No Two Sexualities Are Alike, as No Two Snowflakes Are Alike
235 Why Are Men's and Women's Fantasies So Different? 235 Yet More Differences 236 How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You 237
How Do Men's and Women's Sexual Desires Differ?
How to Use Differences to Make Your Quarry Fall in Love with You 237 42 239
Forget the Golden Rule Between the
Sheets Men in Lust, Women in Love 240
43 243 Hunters, Make Love to a Woman as a Woman Wants It
The One-Hour Lesson That Will Change Your Life 243
247 44 253
Huntresses, Have Sex with a Man as a Man Wants It Let's Go to the Videotape 254 Additional
''Coarse'' Materials for Your Raw Sex Curriculum 257
45 259 A Quiz: Who Loves More, Men or
Women?
46 263 Your Quarry's Sexual Desires Are as Individual as a Thumbprint
Sex Is Like a Steak 266 The Number One Sexual Wish 267
Another Crash Course in Steamy Sensuality for Men
"Why Did He or She Lose Interest?"
268
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"Is This Woman Enough for Me Sexually for the Rest of My Life?" 269 47 273
Huntresses, Become a Sexual Sleuth Let Your Quarry Know You're a Sexual Adventurer 275
Let Your Quarry Know You're a Sexual Adventurer 275 Uncover His Core Fantasies 276 Make Your Quarry Feel Safe Sharing His Deepest Desires 276
The Hot Purr Follow-Up
279
Do All Men Have a Sexual Secret? 280
Ask Knock-His-Socks-Off Details Questions 281
Huntresses, Discover His Trigger Words 283
Give Your Quarry Good Bed Rap
286
48 289
Hunters, Do These Techniques Work with
Women?
Peel Back Her Layers and Lay Bare Her Deeper Fantasies 290
Love Her as She Needs to Be Loved 293
Magic Words to Make Her Love You 294
295 49 297
Finally, Snaring the Confirmed Bachelor Why Do Jerrys Want Such Far-Out Sex? 299 A Walk on the Weird Side 301
50 303 On Looking at Other Women
51 307 The Final Stone Unturned
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Huntresses, Relationship Trigger Words Work for You, Too
Afterword 311
Afterword
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311 313 318
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"I don't get it.. I'm attractive, smart, sensitive, accomplished. Why doesn't he or she flip for me?
Why can't I find love?" How many times have you beat your fists on the pillow asking yourself this question?
You open this book skeptically, yet harboring hope, for the solution. You read the titleH:ow to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You .
"That's a mighty big promise," you say. Indeed, it is.
But the promise of this book is yours if you are willing to follow a scientifically sound plan to capture the heart of a Potential Love Partner.
Why, when history is strewn with broken hearts, do we now claim the means to make someone fall in love with us? Because, after centuries of resistance, science is finally unraveling what romantic love actually is, what triggers it, what kills it, and what makes it last.
Just as ancient tribesmen saw an eclipse and thought it was black magic, we looked at love and thought it was enchantment. Sometimes, especially during those first blissful moments when we want to stop strangers on the street and cry out, "I'm in love!" it may feel like enchantment, but, as we enter the 21st Page 2
century, we are discovering that love is a definable and calculable blend of chemistry, biology, and psychology. (And, well, maybe alittleblack magic thrown in.)
As science sets sail in previously unknown seas, we are at last beginning to understand the rudiments of that "most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions," as George Bernard Shaw described love.
And what makes people want to stay in that "e xcited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part"? The question, and the quandary, of ' Precisely what is love?" is not new. It is one that has been given serious consideration throughout the ages by cerebral heavyweights like Plato, Sigmund Freud, and Charlie Brown.
In the darkened Broadway theater in 1950, the audiences of South Pacific were in total harmony with Ezio Pinza when he pondered, "Who can explain it? Who can tell you why? Fools give you reasons. Wise men never try." Well, recently, many wise men and womehnave tried, and succeeded.
Don't blame Rodgers and Hammerstein. When they were composing romantic musicals, the scientific community was as perplexed about love as Nellie and Emile de Becque singing their bewilderment about some enchanted evening.
Science "Discovers" Sex
Long before Sigmund Freud tackled the subject, analytical scientific minds agreed that love was basic to the human experience. But their rational brains also deemed that evaluating, classifying, and defining romantic love was impossible and therefore a waste of time and money. Freud went to his deathbed declaring, "We really know very little about love."
His dying words remained the scientific doctrine. At least until the early 1970s when a pioneer-spirited band of social psychologists took up the scientists'
constant cries owf hy? and how? They began asking themselves—and everybody they could lure into their laboratories—questions about romantic love.
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Two women psychologists made a breakthrough by inadvertently focusing the attention of the modern press on the ancient question of "What is love?" Ellen Berscheid, PhD, with a colleague, Elaine Hatfield, managed to wangle an $84,000 federal grant to study romantic love. Berscheid convinced the National Science Foundation to open its coffers by declaring,
"We already understand the mating habits of the stickleback fish. It is time to turn to a new species."
Berscheid's study, like others before, might have gone unnoticed and
