comfortable in
one's birth sex. The latter is almost always the cause of homosexuality, but the cause is overlooked as the symptom,
pairing with the same sex, is so distressing to parents. Long before the young child develops the habit of releasing
sexual tension with others of the same sex a struggle has been going on - whether to compete with the parent of the
same sex, whether to assume that role. Where these thoughts go through most young minds, there are other factors at
play. Is the parent of the opposite sex warm and attractive or cold and repellent, is the young child accepted or
rewarded when assuming the role of the birth sex, or punished in some subtle manner.
Classmates also play a role, although a child comfortably grounded within the nuclear family will almost never turn to
homosexuality as a result of bullying by playmates. The opposite is true. Regardless of the school environment, a child
distressed within the nuclear family by the concept of stepping into the shoes that the birth sex requires will almost
never put these concerns aside when away from home.
Are homosexuals born? No, although the preferences of the incarnating spirit play a small role. Physical differences
pointed to as a cause are a reaction, as the degree to which the mind can influence physical development is little
understood. As with any habit that humans develop, change requires that the cause, and not the symptom, be
examined. It does little good to berate homosexuals, who have not so much chosen their lifestyle as been driven to it,
and at a very young age. The toddler, or pre-school child, is scarcely making an intellectual choice. They are avoiding
distress, punishment, and in many cases what they see as crushing and oppressive situations, or even, in their childish
eyes, as possible death. Psychiatrists are quite aware of these scenarios, and explain them well.
Do we, the Zetas, have homosexuals among us? Most certainly, as the dramas that incarnation presents are the same in
all life forms. The sex drive will take a direction, and habits formed young are hard to break. It's as simple as that. Do we approve? Let's put it this way - we do not disapprove. We, in the Service-to-Other, spend our time caring for, not
berating, each other.
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ZetaTalk: Those Who Mourn
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One does not let go of a loved one just because they have died. They live still, in the hearts and minds of those who
remember, miss them, or have unfinished business. Grief is most acute where the loved one filled a void not yet filled.
The side of the bed, where once a warm body breathed and snored, now cold and empty. No one to talk to, share with,
fuss over. Shattered plans, with the one, perhaps, that was to make them possible now gone. The grieving one feels
bereft, deserted, unloved and frightened. They must start anew on many fronts, but how? So many comforts, assumed
to be solid, now vaporized. Some ache for a long time, and if the ache cannot be filled, many follow the beloved into
death. A type of suicide, as chronic grief kills.
Is this good? Your therapists tell you it is important to grieve, to get it out and dispel it, and they are, of course,
correct. Repressed emotions poison. It is the next stage that is most often neglected - rebuilding a life. The dutiful wife, placing flowers on a grave year after year, has not filled her life with the care of others. Are there no others about who need her care? She has not looked, or noticed. Refusal to rebuild a life is seldom what it is purported to be - devotion.
This is a cover for what is really going on - reluctance and denial. Rebuilding means stepping into new territory,
testing and proving oneself, taking risks, facing rebuffs, getting burned. So much easier to take flowers to the grave
and get admiring nods and smiles from the community. So devoted.
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Document Outline
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ZetaTalk: Being Human
Weekly Chats on the Pole Shift ning
ZetaTalk: Fight or Flight
ZetaTalk: Repressed Emotions
ZetaTalk: Stress Diseases
ZetaTalk: Escape Reality
ZetaTalk: Autism Rise
ZetaTalk: Psychosis
ZetaTalk: Anxiety
ZetaTalk: Denial
ZetaTalk: Bad News
ZetaTalk: Certainty
ZetaTalk: Answers
ZetaTalk: The Insecure
ZetaTalk: Disaster Reactions
ZetaTalk: Life: Downside Up
ZetaTalk: When Things Go Wrong
ZetaTalk: Leadership, Earned
ZetaTalk: Pending Partners
ZetaTalk: Soul Personalities
ZetaTalk: Physical Fitness
ZetaTalk: Walking Erect
ZetaTalk: Auras
ZetaTalk: Curing Cancer
