heat and loneliness; not quite as I would kiss m y mother if I
could but with the same intensity I wanted from her, as if she
could hold me enough, or love me enough, or rock me
forever; I never understood w hy you couldn’t just bury
yourself in someone’s arms and kiss until you died; just live
there, embraced, warm and wet and touched all over. Instead
there was this photo I cut out o f a magazine, and a lonely bed in
a lonely house, with mother gone, sick, and father gone, to
pay doctors. I built up all the love there was in the world out o f
those lonely nights and when I left home I wasn’t afraid ever to
touch or be touched and I never abandoned faith that it was
everything and enough, a thousand percent whole, perfect and
sensual and true. I thought we were the same, everyone. I
thought Rock could hold me; hold me; as if he were my
mother, against his breast. O f course, I also liked Tab
Hunter’s “ Red Sails in the Sunset” ; and Tab Hunter. I was
indiscriminate even then but it was an optimism and I never
understood that there was a difference with men, they didn’t
take the oceanic view; they didn’t want whole, just pieces. I
thought it would be a small bed like mine, simple, poor, and
w e’d be on our sides facing each other, the same, and w e’d ride
the long waves o f feeling as if we all were one, the waves and
us, w e’d be drenched in heat and sweat, no boundaries, no
time, and w e’d hold on, hold on, through the great convulsions that made you cry out, and time would be obliterated by
feeling, as it is. Facing each other and touching we could get
old and die; then or later; because there’s only now; it didn’t
matter who, only how it felt, and that it was whole and real
past any other high or any other truth; I wanted feeling to
obliterate me and love to annihilate me; don’t ever make a
wish. There weren’t religious icons in a Jew ish house; only
movie stars. Sensei says it’s paying respect to her karate
tradition to kneel down in front o f the Korean flag and her
picture on the altar but I always wonder what the Koreans
would think about it; if they’d like a woman elevating herself
so high. She’s not really a woman, though; and maybe they
saw the difference and gave her permission, because she’s got a
male teacher, a karate master, a blackbelt killer as it were, and
he w ouldn’t brook no vanity. If she were a girl per se she
couldn’t be so square and fixed, so physically dense, as if
there’s more o f her per square inch than any other female on
the planet, because anatomically she’s female, I’m sure,
although it
iron instead o f a hundred pounds o f some petite, cute girl. You
expect lethal weapons to be big, six feet or more, towering,
overpoweringly high, casting long, terrifying shadows, with
muscles as big as bowling balls; so you notice she’s small and
you can’t figure out how she got the w ay she is except that