And that’s what you’re about to learn in this manual!
What This Manual Is About
This manual is a plain-and-simple, instructional guide on how to give women orgasms. The Female Orgasm Black Book is something that you can refer to time and time again.
I’ve written it with a male reader in mind, but the information in this manual is intended to help men, women and couples achieve female orgasms and have a more fulfilling sexual relationship.
The core section (
The other parts of the manual can be looked at as the “toolbox” of techniques. You’ll find a variety of different sexual techniques you can use to “plug-and-play” into the overall system.
OK, enough introductory talk… let’s get down to business!
CHAPTER 2
Keys to Success
One of the main things that make this book so much better than all of those other sex books is that I’ll take you through a two-step approach that addresses the whole sexual experience, instead of merely a portion.
The two aspects that this manual is going to focus upon are:
1. Strategy (the mindset and overall framework of the female orgasm)
2. Tactics (techniques and the “how to’s”)
The biggest mistake that you can make is to focus on the how-to without paying proper attention to the best mind-set and strategies of the female orgasm.
In reality, the strategies are the key to unlocking the power of the techniques. You’ll understand that while the techniques by itself can be effective, the mind-numbing, noisy, wet, toe-curling orgasms lies largely in the strategy you use when applying the techniques.
So, in order to get the most out of these tactics, you’ve got to pay close, intimate attention to the strategies
Key #1: Mindset
Your state of mind (and your partners’) can really make or break the chances of her having an orgasm…
How do you approach your lover’s orgasms?
You probably enter into sex with the mindset and goal of “giving an orgasm.”
It’s this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose chase for the “perfect” strokes and techniques. It leaves you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there, furiously testing them out on your lover.
I hate to break it to you, but this is the wrong mindset if you truly want to “give” an orgasm.
It sounds contradictory, I know. But it’s true, and here’s why…
When you head into the bedroom with the goal of “giving” her an orgasm, you’re setting up expectations in both of your minds. This approach will create pressure on both you and your partner that an orgasm MUST happen. Once you add pressure to have an orgasm, it is virtually guaranteed to add some negative stress and anxiety during your intimate times together.
And… as this stress grows, it will actually make it much harder for her to cum.
Have you ever seen a football or basketball player “choke up” during a game?
The fans, the crowds, the competition build up so much pressure for the athlete to perform well that their focus is diverted from the game and to their anxieties.
Ultimately, they wind up screwing up. Too much focus and drive on your part to “give” an orgasm can have the same effect on your partner.
If the stress and pressure get too high, she may be left unsatisfied. And because you have set this “goal” to have an orgasm in a first place, and now that the goal is un-met, both you and your partner will be left feeling disappointed.
If this approach is sustained, you may wind up anchoring these feelings of disappointment to your times of physical intimacy — carrying it over into your next sexual encounter, further increasing her “performance anxiety.”
Here’s the paradox…
If you want to give an orgasm, you have to NOT focus on the orgasm!
Instead of focusing on the goal of achieving an orgasm, start focusing your attention on the pleasure of the process.
The key is, if you focus on giving pleasure, and making sure she’s feeling good, that orgasm will come (no pun intended.)
Key #2: Communication
Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke or rhythm more than the next woman does.
To find out what really makes your woman tick, you’ve got to open the lines of communication. You need to find out what she likes as you’re applying a technique. That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes best.
Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn’t as brave speaking her mind (especially when you’re face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response.
Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure, and ultimately, more and better orgasms.
Key #3: Escalation
One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too soon. It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not be ready yet.
For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly. Men basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and we’re done.
