Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.
With each of the stages of sexual response (you’ll find out about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the stimulation is increased.
Key #4: Anticipation and Tension
Anticipation (otherwise known as “teasing” and “excitement”) is a powerful and effective tool to use. In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix. Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure she’s experiencing.
And… while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.
The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm).
The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main “target” before you actually hit the target.
For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.
A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her, it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.
Key #5: Relaxation
A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm.
If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.
Your job?
To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension.
The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!
Key #6: Give Before You Receive
Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.
Why?
It shows that:
1) You have control of your sexual desires
2) She’ll be in a more “ready” state to have an orgasm while having intercourse, and
3) After she has an orgasm, she'll be ready and willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!
Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the blow job she gives you after she RECIEVES an orgasm.
Sex goes the same too…
Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don't believe me.
Tips for the Woman in Your Life
Now I’d like to take a few moments to address the special woman in your life. You can invite her over to the screen, print out the page and tuck it into her briefcase or bring it up in your next sexual conversation…
1. Allow yourself to let go. Don’t feel selfish or sluttish; distracted or unworthy. Don’t tame or subdue yourself. Don’t hold anything back!
2. Don’t feel afraid to get a little verbal. Quit biting your tongue or holding your breath. Let go and moan, groan or sigh if you want to. Don’t force it or get too theatrical, but the man in your life will love to hear the sounds of your pleasure escaping your lips.
3. If you find yourself constantly stressing over hygiene issues like scent or taste or cleanliness, try incorporating a bath or shower early on in your schedule to prepare and improve your comfort level. Even better if you can invite him to join you!
4. Strive to gain greater comfort with your body and what turns you on. Take initiative to learn what really drives you insane with desire and then learn to communicate those hot buttons to the man in your bed. What do you fantasize about? What really turns you on?
5. Learn to believe your lover when he tells you he loves to pleasure you and make you cum — he means it! And he’s also telling you the truth when he swears up and down that he loves to eat your pussy! There are few things in this world that will give a man a sense of accomplishment or satisfaction than making the woman he cares about cum…
The Oxytocin Factor
Oxytocin is one of many chemicals that play a significant role in orgasm and sexual response. It’s a hormone that is secreted by the pituitary gland and cases muscle contractions and sensitizes the nerves. While oxytocin plays a part in our orgasms too, it’s believed that it’s even more important in a woman’s sexual pleasure.
Not only does this hormone play a large part in the contractions that wrack a woman’s womb and vaginal walls when she cums, research has shown that increased oxytocin production in a woman contributes to more powerful, intense orgasms.
Oxytocin also plays an important part of a woman’s emotional state and stimulates emotional pleasure and feelings of intimacy. It’s often referred to as the “cuddling hormone” because it’s this chemical that initiates feelings of connection, bonding and intimacy with your lover.
Stronger orgasms and emotional fulfillment — it’s no surprise why this chemical hormone is so vital to a woman’s healthy sexual response!
In later chapters you’ll discover exactly how to release this chemical to make her feel more connected to you, and want to have sex with you more often.
Keys to Success in Action
