Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing

The Prostate

Your guy has a G-spot—although it’s not the same as yours. It’s the prostate, also known as the “P-spot”—and you can find it a few inches inside his anus.

The prostate creates and stores the ejaculatory fluid that ultimately carries his sperm to you. Since massaging the prostate can make his orgasms feel more amazing than ever, it’s worth feeling your guy out to see if he wants to be felt out.

The prostate is easy to find with a well-lubed index or middle finger. He may actually come from your finger action alone—but it usually takes lots of practice receiving prostate stimulation simultaneously with your hand- and blowjobs.

If he loses his erection while you’re rubbing his prostate, don’t worry—it happens to some guys. Just start him off inside, and finish him off outside.And when you’re done, be sure to remove your finger gendy—and slowly.

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Play nurse! Perhaps a little “professional” play-acting will get him into the mood for buttplay. Tell him you’re a nurse, and you need to examine his buttocks. Have him lay down on his stomach as you begin your “exam.” Start with a light butt massage, and say that you need to go in deeper. Bring out your “instrument”—a finger or mini-vibrator-and complete your exam!

Prostate Massage—From the Outside-In

If he’s not yet relaxed enough to desire your finger inside, you can still caress his P-spot from the outside.

While you’re engaged in hot oral activity, run your lubed fingers down behind his scrotum onto his taint. Your teasing fingertips will feel extraordinary, but as soon as you increase the pressure, you can indirectly stimulate his prostate.

Vary the sensations with firmer pressures and circular strokes, together with your hand- or blowjob, and you’ll give him a truly amazing orgasm. You’ll also awaken the nerve endings at the opening of his anus.Will this tempt him to try finger buttplay next time?

The Rules to Buttplay

When unlocking his backdoor, keep these keys in mind:

Cleanliness. Good hygiene creates a more comfortable experience. Have him wash up with a hot shower or bath, and suggest he “go” an hour or two beforehand.

Communication. Comfort begins with trust, and trust starts with good communication. If you both agree to go really slowly and to communicate openly and honestly through the entire experience—you’ll be just fine.

Relaxation. Prepare him for pleasure by massaging his inner butt-cheeks and inner thighs.This helps get his blood flowing into the area and relaxes his body and butt muscles (a little spanking will help, too!). The best primer for buttplay is sex—so enjoy a hot first round of orgasms before heading to the backside. Remember: the more he relaxes, the better your buttplay can be.

Lubrication. Always use lube. The anus does not self-lubricate enough for anal play, and dryness can cause injury to delicate anal and rectal tissue. So B.Y.O.L.—and keep applying it generously. Choose a good lube and be sure to keep it within close reach. Caution: lube is absolutely necessary during buttplay.

Safety. Wash hands with anti-bacterial soap, take off all rings, and be sure nails are smoothly fi!ed—no hangnails! Examine all sex toys to be sure there are no sharp edges—especially on plastic toys that sometimes have rough seams. Just file them down with an emery board.

Ease into it. Start slowly and gradually: your timing, mood, space and vibe need to be just right. Start with simple pleasures, such as massaging only the butt and anus. Then slowly move on to rimming and other exterior techniques.

Easing inside. The anal canal curves toward the front of the body, so your fingers and toys should be flexible enough to curve with it. Go sloooowly when entering and never pull out quickly. Be gentle, and always use lots of lube.

No double-dipping. Be extra careful not to transfer bacteria from the anus to any other parts of the body. Whether you’re inserting a tongue, toy or finger into the anus, don’t insert them into any other orifice—yours or his—till they’re washed and clean.

Orgasmic synergy. Most men and women require direct genital stimulation to orgasm— few people have orgasms by anal stimulation alone. So be sure to add in other pleasures simultaneously—like the awesome hand- and blowjobs you’re now even better at!

Take your time. This is an adventure—be patient and don’t rush.Your guy may need extra time to get used to it. So go slow and enjoy it!

Buttplay Positions

Try them all till you find your favorites! Here are a few to get you started:

 With your guy on his back, sit between his legs so he can see you.

 Lay him face-down on the bed, and place pillows under his hips.

 Lay him on his side in spoon position, with you behind.

 Get behind him while he’s on all fours. Now drop his shoulders to the bed.

 Try 69, with him on top.

The Buttplay Blastoff

How far in will he like it? Take it one level at a time:

Level 1: Orbiting His Anus—Land Massage

During one of your best blowjobs, pause and seductively whisper,“Do you want me to rock your world like never before?” When he gasps “YES!” slowly slip your lubed fingers onto his taint and