Instead of mission control directing all the parts of your body to make all the right moves, your brain suddenly begins
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wondering about the impression you're making on your Quarry. Your breath becomes short. You senseadeliriousdrowningfeeling.Unfortunately,that'sa sideeffectof shootingthroughyour PEA
brain.
Watch out! You can't be your engaging and scintillating self if nervousness sets in and you start thinking about your every move. There's no time now to concentrate on Perper's Principles and try to recall iftouch comes before synchronicity . Or was it turning before touch ? At high-anxiety moments like these, you need a simple technique to make your body do precisely what Dr. Perper prescribes so you can pay attention to what your fabulous new Quarry is saying.
Hunters, the following is especially important for you because men often forget that times have changed. In the old days, a woman had to be impressed with your muscles or your speed and know you could go out into the jungle and trap a wild pig or a rabbit for dinner. However, many women today can afford their own Pork Pàté or Rabbit Chasseur at a fancy restaurant. The name of the
gameisnolongerimpressawoman.It'sshowhowimpress edyouarewithher .
Huntresses, most of us were weaned on boosting the male ego. Perhaps some chemical in mother's milk told us to kowtow to all the men in our life. By age five we had already learned what worked: "Oh, Daddykins, you're so wunnerful. I know you'll buy me that Barbie doll." Then something happened: We grew up . Some of us became feminists. Like throwing out the baby with the bath water, many women threw out the "Oh, you're so wunnerful"
attitude along with their tattered Barbie dolls.
The modern woman feels she needs to express her capability, her independence, her superintelligence right awayW. rong! There is plenty of time to show a man these qualities later, and
you mustshow them if you want to have a good relationship with mutual respectB. ut now is not the time ! Now is the time to make the man feel that you think he's just absolutely, positively "wunnerful."
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Both men and women are infinitely more drawn to someone who instantly likes them. In several studies, men and women who didn't know each other were told, falsely, by researchers that another participant liked them. When later questioned whom they liked in the group, practically every participant chose someone of the opposite sex who supposedly "liked them." Unfortunately, you don't have a researcher whispering in your Quarry's ear how much you like them, so you must demonstrate that all on your own.
Since saying "I like you" sounds a tad abrupt in words, leave it to your body to do the talking for you.
While chatting with him or her, think of this one wordso: ften . Match your body language up against the acronym which spellssoften . It's an insurance policy against tripping in the Dance of Intimacy.
TECHNIQUE #9:
HEART
Sis for smile. As you are listening to your Quarry, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips.
Ois for openbody. Face your Quarry fully, nose to nose, belly to belly. Keep your arms open in a relaxed, inviting position.
F is for forward lean. Lean toward your Quarry or stand or sit just a tad too close to show you are physically attracted.
Tis for touch. Gently, even "accidentally," touch your Quarry's arm or brush a piece of lint from his or her clothing.
Eis for eyecontact. Remember to use all four of the eye allure techniques we discussed.
Nis for nod. Nod your head gently in response to whatever your Quarry is saying.
"But This Is So Basic!"
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After reading this segment, some of you may say,
"But this advice is so obvious! Why, in a sophisticated exploration of the complexities of love, do you suggest such mundane movements and have the temerity to call them techniques?"
For two reasons, my friends. One, because some of my most cosmopolitan and urbane friends still stumble over these simplistic steps. Two, because of their supreme importance. Research has proved that these are the specific moves that really work when first meeting someone you want to make fall in love with you.
Now let us explore two other areas where even very smart women and men mess up: the first conversation and the first date.
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Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music
Together
Conversation is like music. Your first conversation can be a beautiful concert where all the notes fall into place, bringing joy and harmony to your Quarry's heart. Or you can inadvertently utter discordant notes that make your Quarry tune out thoughts of love.
So far we've talked about the dance(the body movements and choreography) to get your Quarry interested. Now, let's explore themusic(the words and lyrics) of your love overture—your first conversation.
Think of your first conversation as an audition piece to see what role, if any, you will play in your Quarry's life. You can get away with boring interludes later in a relationship, but not now. Your first discussion has to be a smooth flow of electricity if it's going to ignite a relationship.
What is exhilarating conversation? To one Quarry, it's talking about sports, theatre, ballet. For another, it's discussing philosophy, psychology, or nuclear fission. Many people find chatting about their home, their car, or their family, dog, or parakeet to be the most engrossing dialogue by far. You need Page 62
techniques to discover your Quarry's hot buttons to make sure your first conversation is memorable for him or her.
Conversation Is Like Making Love
When you are making love to a new partner for the first time, you can gently ask, "Am I doing it the way you like? Is there anything else you want?" But you can't ask a new , "Is the conversation PLP
good for you, too, honey?"
When you are in bed together the first few times, you don't yet
