What are the most common secret male fantasies?
Fantasies of having sex with two women, seeing two women make love to each other, watching other couples make love, seeing a woman
masturbate, having the woman take charge and give him sexual commands, domina ting a woman . . . the list goes on. The list also gets increasingly more far-out and esoteric.
If there are any secret marbles in your Quarry's little bag, he will now spill them out into your lap, thrilled that he is with such a free-spirited woman.
TECHNIQUE #77 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
WHAT TURNS YOU ON?
Huntresses, purr mysteriously about how you like imaginative sex. Tell him a story like Alicia's, then, with a mischievous little grin on your face, ask him,
"What turns youon?"
His answer could be the golden egg guaranteed to get his goose . . . and get him to fall in love with you.
The Hot Purr Follow-Up
Huntresses, your work isn't over yet—far from it.Whatever his answer, feign excitement. Put a twinkle in your eye and say, "Oh, really?" Then maybe bite your lip a little, trying to suppress your thrill, and croon, "Tell me more." Punctuate his monologue with appropriate ooh's and aah's, and sexy smiles. Your goal is to get him to continue talking about whatever turns him on.
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A few warnings. It is crucial, as he is sharing these intimacies with you, that you don't let one minuscule judgmental frown flicker across your brow. Most women are smart enough when they see their lover's penis for the first time, to know they should look impressed. Well, when a man is sharing his fantasies with you, he is baring his mental private parts. He is sensitive to your every expression. One disapproving look, and he zips his lips on this subject, maybe forever.
TECHNIQUE #78 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
THE HOT PURR RESPONSE
How should you respond when you get your Quarry talking about sex?
An approving moan, a hot purr, and perhaps a naughty smile punctuated by a little licking of your lips is what X-rated Miss Manners suggests.
Do All Men Have a Sexual Secret?
Get ready for a pretty surprising statistic. Therapists report that about 90 percent of men have a secret desire they've never shared with their wives or significant others. ThNeew York Times reported in a headline that "Much Is Found Perverse.5"3 We'll get to that subject later, but for the moment let's talk about the most common male fantasy secrets.
What kind of secrets do men harbor? Nothing outrageous, nothing shocking. But something that they fear their mothers would tell them they're dirty for thinking—like the six most prevalent secret male fantasies listed earlier in this book.
Incidentally, theWhat Turns You On technique is a splendid method for finding out if you two are going to be sexually compatible in the long run. Some men have sexual habits and proclivities that are a nice place to visit, but you wouldn't want to live with them.
Suppose you're sitting across the restaurant table with the
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reflection of candlelight in the beautiful wineglass flickering off your expectant, smiling face. You've asked your Quarry, "What turns you on?" He starts telling you some bizarre activity you could never accept. What should you do? Scream? Grab your bag and run? Say, "Ugh, that's disgusting!" or "What a sicko you are!''?
No. Listen anyway. React as though what he's saying is exciting. Run to the ladies' room and gag later if it's something you find really distasteful, but now is not the time to show your disgust. You've led your Quarry this far down the garden path, and it 's not fair to kick sand in his face.
Incidentally, you must never share your man's secret with anyone else, not even your best friend. You have tricked him into telling you, and now you must play fair. Chances are your Quarry's secret
will be something very ordinary, but if you want him to fa ll in love with you, it's up to you to make him think you find his very ordinary desires extraordinarily exciting.
Ask Knock-His-Socks-Off Details Questions Now is the time to pretend you're in Political Science Filibuster class. This is your final exam on how long you can keep a monologue (his) going. Ask your Quarry every conceivable question about his fantasy.
At first he may be taken a little aback by your friendly interrogation. Within moments, I promise you, he'll get into the swing of things and be thrilled with your line of questioning.
The number one most rampant secret male fantasy is wanting to be in bed with two women, or watching two women make love to each other. Let's say you've just used theWhat Turns You On and Hot Purr Response techniques with your Quarry. Fantasizing two women together was his big confession.
You: "Hmmm. [You purr.] That's exciting. What do the two women look like?" He answers. You:
"Really? [You get a twinkle in your eye.] Ooh. Do they have any clothes on?" He answers.
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You: "Wow. [Flash him a cute, mischievous, naughty smile.] Is one of them seducing the other, or are they both into it?" He answers.
You: "Umm, I like that. [Sincere curiosity.] Is this the first time they've ever made it with another woman?"
He answers.
You: "Do they have names in your fantasy." If they do, start using their names. You: "Umm. [Lick your lips.] Where do Barb and Di kiss each other?" He answers.
You: "Ooh! [You're really into it now.] Are Barb and Di lesbians, or did they just find each other irresistible?"
And so it goes, and so your Quarry's excitement grows. By now, if you're having this conversation over dinner, the table could start levitating due to his growing erection. All right, Huntresses, I exaggerate, but keep the questions coming and you will enj oy the new way your Quarry looks at
you. No matter how exciting he thought you were before, you are now becoming much more thrilling to him.
Don't take it personally and feel neglected because your Quarry is talking about Barb and Di, or whoever is in his fantasy, instead of you. Believe
