Why Men Love Bitches

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #95

A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman,

when she eats out of the palm of his hand.

At which point, he begins to get bored.

The Bitch Is Never Fully Conquered

So why do men love bitches? With a bitch, they never feel as though they've quite conquered her, so they keep trying. Some men try for a lifetime.

When a man is with a woman who is willing to bend over backward, it almost invites mistreatment. Charlotte catered to her boyfriend, Tom, constantly. His interest was starting to fade.

Charlotte thought she’d win Tom back by throwing a party for him on the beach. She planned an elaborate party and invited all his friends. She also decided to pay over $3,000 to hire a sky-writing service for the event. There were two planes and they made a big beautiful heart in the sky followed by the words, “I love you always.” Once the planes arrived overhead, it took almost a half-hour for them to do an exquisite job. When they were finished, everyone was in awe. It was breathtaking, and everyone thought so— except Tom (who had unfortunately called an hour previously to say he couldn’t make it). By then, it was too late for Charlotte to get a refund on the fortune she had spent. She tried to cancel, but it was too late. The planes had already taken off and were en route to the party.

The example with Charlotte is not uncommon. This is what happens when a woman is too nice and will jump through hoops: It invites bad behavior.

While the nice girl loses her mind, the bitch, on the other hand, makes the man lose his. When a woman keeps a level head, a man will often become much more intrigued with her. He’ll think about her constantly, he won’t be able to get enough of her, and he’ll eventually decide he can’t live without her.

It’s a basic difference between men and women: Women want safety and predictability and men long for excitement, danger, and unpredictability. As a child, the nice girl played with Barbie and her Ken doll; she grew up with the mental image that she, too, would live “happily ever after.” Little boys want nothing to do with the Ken doll—they identify with exciting figures who live dangerously, like Batman, Superman, and Spiderman.

Ask any mother which child she finds more trouble-some—a son or a daughter. Most mothers confess that boys are more difficult, especially if there are more than one. Why? For most men, safe = boring. So they look for ways to add excitement and danger, and go out of their way to pursue things that are difficult. It’s this very element of danger that draws him to a bitch.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #96

The tension that arises with a slightly bitchy

woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man.

He feels slightly unsure because she is never

in the palm of his hand.

Think about what things men collect, or the things that fascinate them. Guns, ammunition, sports cards, sci- fi magazines, pocket knives, little metal cars, power tools, and a “rechargeable” flashlight. (Your job is to act riveted. “Wow, rechargeable?”) Oh, and let’s not forget the “priceless” collection of little army men (just to die for) and the high-speed stuff: cars, Jet Skis, motorcycles, and airplanes.

The nice girl makes the mistake of nurturing a man and making him feel too “safe.” Men get bored very easily, which is why too much predictability and safety makes the relationship seem monotonous to him. With the bitch, it isn’t monotonous.

The nice girl buries her head in the sand when she ignores a man’s need for stimulation, danger, or “a challenge.” This is to her detriment. She’s like an ostrich. When an ostrich sees a hunting animal, instead of facing the tiger head-on, it’ll bury its head in the sand. Hence, it becomes “din din.”

The bitch takes the head-on approach, but the nice girl takes the “buried head” approach. The bitch sees what’s actually there. The nice girl sees what she wants to see.

In the first month alone, here’s what the “nice girl” will do… She’ll give him a foot massage. Then she’ll cook eggs with six ingredients and pancakes on the side. She’ll drive to do his laundry and iron his shirts. Then she’ll read him poems and want to cuddle all day. After he dumps her, she’ll say, “I can’t believe he did this to me!”

Many women believe that men want a woman who will do… whatever they tell her to do. In theory, men want this. But in practice, when they actually get it, they’ll tire of it almost instantaneously.

The minute a man thinks he can “do no wrong” in your eyes and you’ll accept anything he dishes out, you’ve already “waved a white flag” with regard to his having the hots for you. His desire will come to a screeching halt.

Don’t buy the one about him wanting a “damsel in distress,” either. As one man said, “When you rescue a damsel in distress, all you get stuck with is a distressed damsel.”

The notion that a woman has to “spill her guts out” in order to truly be in love isn’t a sign of love, it’s about becoming “din din.” He sees a docile woman and he says to himself, “Oh, no. A cling-on. Am I going to have to carry around this bag of Jell-O forever?” Once he realizes this, he calls less often or stops calling altogether— after he has sex with her.

ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #97

A “yes” woman who gives too much sends

the impression that she believes in the man more

than she believes in herself.

Men view this as weakness not kindness.

When the nice girl needs a man too much and puts him on a pedestal, she treats him with a view of himself that even he doesn’t hold. And it makes him very uncomfortable because he knows (better than anyone) that he “ain’t no white knight.” But he knows it’s her fantasy, so he gives it the “good ol’ college try”. He makes a forced effort to try to be romantic, and it isn’t long before he begins to question whether she’s being disingenuous, too. He thinks to himself, “Hmm… I wonder what she’s really like. She can’t possibly be that nice.” Like a low-interest-rate credit card that’s only good for the first month, he’ll start to feel he’s getting the “promo package.” Not the real deal.

With the bitch, it’s straight-up and real. There’s no concern that either side will do a “bait and switch.” He tests her once or twice, and she puts him in his place each time. Then two things happen. First, he says to himself, “This one’s not dumb. She won’t buy my bullcrap.”

Second, he feels as though she’s seen him for who he really is. She’s seen “the worst,” and she likes him anyway. Likewise, he’s seen “the worst” in her, so he doesn’t feel as though there is a surprise “lurking” inside her. When he’s with a bitch, he may be annoyed from time to time, but he believes that what they share is real.

The Bitch Is Defined from Within

Eddie Murphy once said in an interview: “The best advice I ever heard is, don’t take anyone else’s advice.” There’s power in this because it puts you in the conductor’s seat, right at “the controls” in your life. It doesn’t mean you should stop seeking information or outside input, it just means that you’re the one driving. You choose your own